A REAL Date-killer

Last week I talked about a fake date-killer.  This time I'm going to talk about a REAL one. 

So guys might not care about the salad, but they get really freaked out when you mention your "diet".  Yes, mentioning your diet on a date is a DATE-KILLER. 

When you mention your diet, even if it's offhandedly, one of two things can happen:

1. They never ask you on another date ever again.
2. They ask more questions.

Some guys just can't "handle" a girl who has dietary needs.  I've talked to some people who had guys mention how they could never be with a girl who has a diet like that ON THEIR DATE!!!! 

And when the guy asks more questions about it.  (However kind he may be.)  You can bet that you're going to spend the majority of the date talking about what you can and can't eat.

Date: "Can you have chicken?"

You: "No.  It has a lot of PHE in it."

Date: "How about turkey?"

You: "Same deal... no."

Date: "How about fish?"

You: "Still has a lot of PHE."

Date: "What about water?"

You: "Actually that I can have." (while in you mind you're thinking: Of course I can have water!  You've been watching me drink it for the whole date!) 

It's nice that he's interested.  But while he's busy asking questions about your diet, you lose the chance to get to know each other.  In his head your "the girl with the really complicated diet".

 You could be using the time that you spend trying to explain your diet to find out more interesting things like: what color is his toothbrush?  What's his favorite type of goat?  What's his favorite cartoon?  What is his closet-nerdy habit?  What is his favorite crayon in those big coloring boxes?  Etc...

The funny thing is, even if I know the guy pretty well.  We've been friends for a LONG time, the moment we're in a date setting they suddenly want to know all the gritty detail of my diet.

It's a Date-killer.

So some good advice?  Save discussing you're diet for another day.  Definitely not the first date.  Once you get to know him a little better, and he knows that you're not only your diet.  Because the moment you're diet is mentioned... it becomes the choice topic for a long long long long time. 

    

 

Oh, You're a Salad-Eater?

The other day I was talking with my friends about dates/dating/ guys ... you know.  We were talking about "Date-Killers".  (The things that really make a date awkward or can sometimes even ruin it).

I went home, and later I was still thinking about it.  What are some "Date-Killers"?  And are they real or just a Myth?

Well, when I was 12 years old I was told that one dates you shouldn't order salad or spaghetti because they're really messy.  And on top of being messy, salad makes him think "oh you're one of THOSE girls.  The ones who obsess about their weight and whatnot."

Basically they told me, salad is a Date-killer.

Which for PKU'ers is kind of sad.  Most of the time all we can eat at restaurants IS the salad.  So what do we do?

My first date I decided that I didn't care if my date thought that.  He should already know me well enough to know somewhat about my diet, if he was going to ask me out on a date.  So I ordered a salad.  I order salad a lot on dates, and you know what?  No one cares.  :)

So that Date-Killer has been DE-MYTHED.  Next time I'll talk about a REAL Date-killer, one that I've experienced myself.  Should come with an intriguing story. :)   

(Sorry that this was short.)